Raising children in this millennial generation as parents we are faced with a lot more distractions that the kids might face. Being a working single mother it is a lot that we deal with and having to raise a family on our own. Kids this generation are faced with peer pressure from every avenue you can think of. Now that my children are teenagers, they have faced some issues like peer pressure from teachers, friends, church members and family. Everyone has an opinion of what children should be doing at their age and that is a lot of pressure on a child that’s at an age where they are trying to figure things out for themself and as they are growing into a young woman/man.
Keeping a Calm Home Environment
Kids are faced with the high pressure of how things are on the outside of the home, at school, work and friends. So having a calm home environment brings so much peace and solitude in their life that give them a day to just relax. This means you shouldn’t yell at your child if he ignores you or refuses to finish his homework. Of course, every parent might be pushed to the breaking point and “lose it” from time to time. Every parent has yelled or screamed at their child at some point. If this happens, gently apologize and reassure your child that you love him, while explaining that his behavior can be irritating at times.
Limit media distractions in your home
Many children do not have the same ability to filter out sounds as adults. This means that allowing your child to watch television while doing her homework may interfere with her ability to concentrate. Limit your child’s “screen time” to one hour every day. This involves minimizing your exposure to television, video games, and other forms of visual stimulation.
Have your child’s vision and hearing tested
Take your child to the pediatrician for a vision and hearing exam if he suddenly starts having problems at school. A youngster may not be able to indicate that he or she is having difficulty seeing or hearing clearly. I got my kids tested when they was little because the doctor seen that they wasn’t articulating at their age well. So at that time they was eligible to receive Speech Therapy while in school and to my surprise having Speech Therapy really did make a difference in their education.
Stay positive in your children’s presence
When your child is there, don’t dispute with your spouse or partner. Surprisingly, children are equally as concerned about their parents as their parents are about them. To a child, hearing parents dispute or even speak in a loud voice might be frightening. Even if the disagreements aren’t significant, a child’s creative imagination may interpret them as an indication that his parents are having difficulties. Only tell your child about the positive aspects of your life, and save the conflicts for when he or she is not there. Even if your child is in a different room, he may hear your tone of voice and sense your anger.
Be “in the moment” with your child at least once every day
Allow yourself a few minutes each day to devote 100 percent of your attention to your child: read a book to her, play a short board game with her, or work together on a drawing or painting. If you prefer outside activities, take your youngster to the park and play basketball or tennis. Things that I do with my children is we have game night and an evening walk after dinner.
Have clear rules and enforce them consistently
Parents should come to an agreement on the regulations that apply to their child and support one another. If a youngster is having problems focusing, it’s especially important to be on the same page when it comes to discipline.
When children face difficulties, they may feel isolated. Explain to your child that many people have difficulty focusing and paying attention. And everyone is dealing with a problem.
The more you understand why and when your child has difficulty concentrating, the more detailed your interactions may be. Your child’s teacher can be a valuable source of information. Inquire with the teacher about what is going on in class and if there are any strategies to assist your child in being more focused.